This scene was so haunting and emotionally charged.
Even though Spike was trying to force himself on Buffy, my heart ached for him, not her. He didn’t want to hurt her, he just wanted her to feel something for him.
He isn’t used to loving someone like that, and it hurt him. And the things she has said to him hurt him all the more because of what happened to him when he was human. I think he felt useless, like a kicked puppy. He just wanted her to admit she felt something for him.
And the way he looked when he realized what he did. So sad. I have a theory that if his chip still worked for her, it wouldn’t have done anything to him because he didn’t intend to hurt her.
This is not the first post like this I’ve seen. Some of them have even been more overt in putting the blame on Buffy, the victim of this attack. But it’s the last straw and I feel compelled to say something about it. I understand that this is a TV show and people get attached to the characters. But unfortunately, the opinion of this poster has roots in reality and scary ones at that. What I just read makes me feel sick to my stomach. How can anyone watch a scene of attempted rape, one in which the woman is being held down, groped against her will, begging her assailant to stop, and say that her attacker “didn’t want to hurt her” and he just wants her to “admit she felt something for him?” Talk about rape culture. Talk about victim blaming.
So, it’s Buffy’s fault that Spike had a shitty life as a human? It’s Buffy’s fault that he has inadequacy issues? I’m not even going to touch on the fact that the rest of the relationship (during season 6) we’re shown between these characters is sick and abusive. Just look at this scene. The character of Buffy in this scene is symbolic of every woman who is ever assaulted by a partner or someone else she trusts. Rape and sexual assault are never, ever justified. It doesn’t matter that the character of Spike is emotionally crippled. It doesn’t matter that he’s obsessed with her. Spike’s issues do not excuse his assault. They do not erase the blame for his deplorable actions. If you love someone and they rebuff your attempt to have sex with them, YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TAKE WHAT YOU WANT BY FORCE. You do not have the right to make them “admit” they want you. The facts of this scene are as follows: Buffy says no and Spike does not stop. The only reason he doesn’t actually penetrate her is because she’s able to fight him off. The end. Even if I actually believed that he “didn’t intend to hurt her,” it wouldn’t matter one single bit. Actions are what matter.
Now, this is a TV show. Spike is a vampire, whom we are told and shown is evil. So frankly, I don’t have a problem with a storyline in which a creature that’s supposed to be evil hurts a human being. That’s the way it goes and we’re watching science fiction here. But I do have a problem when I see blatant rape justification bullshit both from the writers of this show and the fans. To me, Joss Whedon lost what little feminist cred he had after this moment. Don’t show me a graphic scene like this and then have your writers going around blabbing about what a fantastic love story the Spike/Buffy storyline is. Physical violence, sexual assault, and emotional abuse are not evidence of love, writers. If you wanna go with the dark storyline, by all means, do it. But don’t give me abuse and call it romance.
And please, fangirls, think about what you’re saying for a moment. I know you think Spike so hot and he’s some kind of tortured lost puppy. But sexual assault is always, absolutely without fail the fault of the attacker. There is no excuse for it. There is no rationalization. “You made me hurt you” is the mentality of an abuser. And as a human beings, we cannot subscribe to that. This may be a TV show, but the messages it projects is bigger than that.